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Kahi Aap Bhi Gaslighting Ke Sikhar To Nhi


 What is gaslighting a person?

Gaslighting is a form of psychological  manipulation in which the abuser attempts to sow self-doubt and confusion in their victim's mind. Typically , gaslighters are seeking to gain power and control over the other person, by distorting reality and forcing them to question their own judgment  and intuition.


Gaslighting ek tarh ka bhawanatmak shoshan hai, jo khathor par ek riste me sathi (pati-patni ya khas dost) dawara kiya jta hai. Jb ish riste me ummido ka bojh, bina wajh ki rok-tok, najayaz vyavhaar aadi hone lage to vyakti ke manshki swasth par ishka gahara prabhav parta hai. Kuch baato par gaur karege to pata laga sakte hai ki gaslighting kish tarah ki jaati hai aur ishka aasar kaise parta hai. Dusre swado me kahe to gaslighting manovaigyanik tarke se kisi k samne baat khare karne ko kaha gaya hai. Relationship me bhi log ek vyakati, dusro k sath ish tarah ka vartab karta hai, aapne apne aas-pass k logo ya dosto se suna hoga.

  • Khud pr bharosa na karege dena:- Gaslighting se pirit logo ko hamesa ehsaas karaya jaata hai ki ve kabhi sahi nirnaye nhi le sakte hai. Unke har faishale ya karya me minmekh nikale jate hai. Ish kaaran pirit khud pr bhrosa nhi kr paata. Ushka aatmvisvas kaam hota jaata hai. Ishi baat ka fhaida ushka saathi uthata hai or ushke hisase k faishala bhi khud leta hai.

  • Apradh-Bodh me Dalana:- Ye akshar dekha jaata hi ki saathi dawara baat na maanane par ya kisi baat par ashmati jatane pr samane wale ko apradh bodh me dala jaata hai ki 'agar tumne baat maan li hoti to yesa nhi hota.' Ishke alawa 'tum kabhi meri baat nhi maante/manti hu' , jabki 'main Hamesa tumhari baat maanta/maanti hu.' Apki har charcha kisi na kisi roop me ish or mur jaati hai ki jo kuch hua ushke liye kisi ek ko hi dosi thaharaya jayega.

  • Hamesa juthe vaade karna:- Faz ya kartavy ke naam pr kisi ko ushki chamta k paar le jaana. Najayaz umeede karna, shadi k baad jaise rahna hai rah lena jaise vade karne k baad, ushibsaathi ka maan mutabik rahne pr ulahne dena, pahnaave ko lekar rok-tok karna, 'tumhe naukari karne ki kya jarurat kah kr bhavanatmak soshan karna aadi ishke udhaharan hai.


  • Sahanubhuti ki aar me fhaida  uthana:- Ye ek or bara karan hai, jiske jariye gaslighting sabse adhik hoti hai. Bhabuk karke(emotional black mail ) paiso ki maag karna, akelepaan ki shikayat karke sahanubhuti lena ya fir dukhi hokar ya rokar apni baat manvaana. Yese me samne vala aapse apna kaam nikalva lete hai or apkoblagta hai ki vo apka apna hai, aapse prem karta hai lekin asal me apka fhaida uthaya jaata hai.

Lakshan par agar gaur kare to: - 
  • Bhavnayo ko vayakat krne se daar lagta hai. Apki raye sahi nhi hoti, ishiye chup rahna behtar samajhte hai.
  • Har galti k liye khud ko jimmeder maante hai. Har baar aap hi maafi maagate hai fir chahe kisi ki bhi galti ho.
  • Apko lagata hai ki apke faishale galat hote hai ishliye apne faishale samane vale ki rai pr chor dete hai.
  • Hamesa bhramit rahate hai ki aap jo kahege ya karege ushse kahi garbar na ho jaaye.
  • Sab ki aapekshayo par khara utharne ka prayash karte hai.

Samadhaan ek Nazar me:-

  • Anaitik vayavhar ka virodh kare:- Bahut mumkin hai log  jaanbujh kar apradh bodh me daalne ki koshis karege lekin apne aapko kisi bhi anaithik baat ke liye dosh na de. Apni saririk va maanshik simao se aage na jaaye.

  • Vadalta vayavhar savikar na kare :- Apke sath subh galat vayavhar karne k baad shaam ko apko tophe dena, apmaan karen k baad khayal rakhna, kaam me madad karna, ye sab savikar na kare.

  • Khud par bharosa kare:- Hamesa ek baat ka khayal rakhe ki aap jo faishala karege fir vo chahe sahi ho ya galat vo apka hoga. Ishliye jo taye karna hai aatmvisvas rakh kr kare. Dusaro ki salah ke bhrose na rahe.

  • Sabdo ki sima ka dhayan rakhe:- Sabse aham baat, saaf, saral bhasa va vayavhar  se apni samasya saha kare. Yadi fir bhi samane vale vyakti ki tarf se gaslighting jari rahti hai to ishthiti ke anusar faishala le.

  • Sahi Niyat bhi jaruri:- Yaad rakhe acha vayavhar, ache irado aur niyat k sath bhi aata hai. Logo k vayavhar aur unki niyat par dhayan de.



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